Category: Family
Helping a Mesothelioma Patient Manage Pain
Any time someone that you love is in pain, you can’t help but feel helpless. You do everything that you can to comfort them, and even when you are able to alleviate some, or even all, of the pain, you are still sorry that they had to experience it in the first place. This was the case during my father’s battle with mesothelioma.
In the “early stages” of his fight, pre-diagnosis, his pain came in the form of exhaustion and the inability to breathe. Later, it was his overall lethargy during chemotherapy, the woes of traveling to and from a clinical trial, and the discomfort during his radiation therapy. A lot of these pains were emotional. I have written before about how important it is to support your loved one on this level; it is an absolute necessity and non-negotiable. However, I want to focus on the physical pain today.
The vast majority of Dad’s physical pain with mesothelioma came following his pleurectomy. As with any surgery, you would expect discomfort immediately after. Once his pain medicine was reduced, you could tell that this man, who never really complained about much, was hurting.
His incision was 20 plus inches, radiating in an almost “J” shape from his shoulder to his ribs. The residual nerve pain plagued him for a long time afterwards. All the while, Dad kept his complaints to a minimum; “After all”, he would say, “I’m so blessed that God let me have this surgery!” That was my father. Always finding God’s hand in every situation, no matter how uncomfortable he may have been.
It was really difficult watching Dad’s recovery, although it seemed to get better with each passing day. You never want someone to have to go through any kind of pain, but it is important to remember that sometimes, that pain is what will lead you to the beauty at the end. Once Dad recovered from his surgery, his quality of life was amazing, and he often talked about how having the procedure was the best decision he could have made. It made all the difficulty worth it.
Remember to stay strong for your friend or family member who is battling mesothelioma. They are going through something unthinkable, as are you. Supporting and loving each other though these times will make you stronger together. God will take over if you let Him; talk to Him, and you can help in praying the pain away.
There are also other things you can do to help. First, listen to your loved one. They will let you know what they need; a listening ear might do the trick one day, but help walking and regaining strength might be on the menu the next. Everyone has things that bring them comfort. Offer to bring those things to your patient, or to help them have those experiences. Sometimes, they may feel like being out, but others, home may be where they want to stay. Let them guide you; your love and support will be a huge help in their recovery process.
Life is Too Short to Take for Granted
This morning, I woke up. I woke up in my cozy home full of love and laughter.
I spent my day working with our business, playing with our daughter, and enjoying every moment with the man God chose to be my husband.
I often call our home our little “bubble,” our own space in this big world.
At the end of the day, I’m tired from all of the “living” I’ve done throughout the day. I fall asleep quickly, wake up, and do it all again.
This beautiful life and routine that God has given me bring me more joy than I could ever have imagined. I look forward to each new milestone, every adventure, and all the love.
Even though I recognize how blessed I am, is it possible that I still take it all for granted?
Life if short, it’s up to us to put as much “living” into our lives as possible. There is the old saying, “Are you too busy making a living that you’ve forgotten to make a life?” This oftentimes rings too true. It’s easy to get so wrapped up in work and chores that you don’t make time to enjoy those around you, people and experiences just waiting for you to notice them and take action.
My Dad’s life was cut short by mesothelioma, yes, but that doesn’t mean that mesothelioma is the only thing that has this effect. Sadly, we lose wonderful people every single day. These are the times where we usually stop and think about our lives and what we’re really doing with them. Why not realize the beauty of life every day?
Tell people you love them, spend time with family and friends. Don’t be afraid to experience new things. Truly live and thank the Good Lord above for the opportunity.
Mesothelioma Caregivers Offer Physical and Emotional Help
Looking back on the time that I spent as a part-time caregiver for my father as he battled pleural mesothelioma, I realize that there were two very different, yet interconnected, parts of the job. Taking care of Dad required concrete, physical help as well as emotional support.
Some of the tasks that were involved in aiding my Dad changed throughout his fight. Before his diagnosis, he couldn’t really do much without being short of breath. At that point, he needed help with chores around the house, things that he would usually have done without batting an eye. After his diagnosis and surgery, he required help cleaning his incision site, navigating movement with his chest tubes, and regaining his strength.
Once Dad was recovered and completed his four rounds of chemotherapy, he felt great! He was cutting grass, playing with his bluegrass band, and taking walks much like he did before he fell ill. One thing that he did lose throughout this process was some muscle. A lot of the time he would get frustrated; he just couldn’t seem to do the things he could before we were presented with the term “mesothelioma.”
These were the times where the second part of caregiving kicked in. It was so vitally important for us to support Dad on a deeper level. He had to know that we were there for him to lean on when he was having a tough day accepting what had happened to him. He would often tell me that he was frustrated. Having been a man who could seemingly do anything and then all at once be changed, had to have been a hard thing to endure.
Loving Dad through his mesothelioma was the easy part; to know him was to love him. I know that he always felt that love; the love of family and friends, and the love of God. That is what carried him through.
Please remember that when you are caring for someone afflicted with this cancer, they are still the same person. Don’t allow them to be defined by a disease. Help them with their bodily needs, but don’t forget those emotional ones as well.
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Celebrate Mesothelioma Survivors Every Day
June 5 was National Cancer Survivors Day, a day set aside to ” to honor cancer survivors and to show the world that life after a cancer diagnosis can be fruitful, rewarding, and even inspiring.”Although this day has come and gone, chances are high that mesothelioma patients are aware of their cancer every day of the year. It is important that you also set aside time throughout the year to reach out and support a mesothelioma survivor.
June 5 was a day for mesothelioma survivors and their families to join the nearly 14.5 million other Americans, and millions more around the world, who have survived cancer. The day was a day for CELEBRATION for those who have survived, an INSPIRATION for those recently diagnosed, a gathering of SUPPORT for families, and an OUTREACH to the community, according to the National Cancer Survivors Day Foundation who sponsors the day. We encourage all of the mesothelioma community to take the time out to celebrate with mesothelioma survivors and their families – each and every day of the year.
Mesothelioma is a terminal cancer caused by past exposure to asbestos, a known carcinogen. Although there is no cure for the cancer, advances in treatments are helping patients live longer, more productive lives than in the past. These mesothelioma survivors, defined by the National Cancer Survivor’s Day Foundation as anyone living with a history of cancer – from the moment of diagnosis through the remainder of life, show true grit and strength every day while continuing to fight this dreadful disease.
“When most people hear the word ‘cancer,’ they automatically think the worst,” says National Cancer Survivors Day Foundation spokesperson, Laura Shipp in a May 20 press release announcing the day. “But the truth is that more people are living longer and better quality lives after cancer than ever before. National Cancer Survivors Day® is an opportunity for these cancer survivors – and those who support them – to come together and celebrate this new reality in cancer survivorship.”
In a statement on survivors day, Douglas R. Lowy, MD, Acting Director, National Cancer Institute, and Robert T. Croyle, PhD, Director, NCI Division of Cancer Control and Population Sciences, recognized the challenges cancer survivors face every day and acknowledged the role the NCI plays in helping improve survivorship, saying in part:
“As part of the leadership team of the National Cancer Institute (NCI), we also commend the tireless efforts of the researchers who are working to find new and better ways to control and treat cancer more effectively and safely. This is a vitally important task. Although more and more cancer survivors will return to active and productive lives following their cancer diagnosis, for many of them, the long-term physical, psychological, and social effects of cancer and its treatments remain serious and challenging. Recognizing this, survivorship research remains a key component of NCI’s research portfolio.”
The American Cancer Society reports the average survival time for people with mesothelioma, is between 4 and 18 months. However, between five and ten percent of mesothelioma patients will live at least five years after diagnosis.
“Our Foundation hopes that NCSD serves as a call to action for further research, more resources, and increased public awareness to improve quality of life for cancer survivors,” said Shipp.
Sources:
- National Cancer Survivors Day
http://www.ncsd.org/about-us - National Cancer Institute
http://www.cancer.org/cancer/news/features/when-a-friend-has-cancer - National Cancer Survivors Day Foundation
http://www.ncsd.org/_blog/Front_Page_News/post/Press_Release-May2013/
Don’t Wait To Make A Doctor’s Appointment
Many people have aversions to going to the doctor. When my Dad began having trouble breathing in the summer of 2011, we urged him to make an appointment. He said, “I’m fine, I’m just having some trouble catching my breath. It’s really hot outside, don’t worry about me!” The symptoms began getting worse and then other symptoms started to arise.
I remember when he went to the doctor and they said he had fluid on his lung. It seemed like it could be an infection; that would have been very treatable. Then they found a shadow on his lung. Then he needed the fluid drained. After that came a procedure that finally gave him the awful diagnosis of mesothelioma.
If you think that you have been exposed to asbestos and are experiencing symptoms of asbestos-related diseases like shortness of breath, coughing, weight loss, etc., please consider getting checked out. It’s important to know what you’re up against if it is mesothelioma. It can allow your medical team to create a treatment plan that will be best for you. You owe it to yourself and your loved ones!
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